This Is Just For Now, Not Forever.
By Claire Edwards DSNU
June 2026
I didn’t truly realise that people do read and take comfort from the words given to me by my Guides that I then post on my website until a message I recently received and it made me smile, as all I have ever wanted to do was to write in a way that helped others.
Since March, my life has changed dramatically, I managed to find the courage to leave an abusive relationship after 14 years and that was many years coming, but was still traumatic in its nature, due to the effects on my children and my hopes and dreams for our future.
And then my Mum became unwell and 16 days later passed. The shock and sadness to myself and my family, not least my father who had shared over 50 years of marriage with her, is quite overwhelming at times, she was so full of life.
But due to consideration and time to reflect on certain aspects, and the knowing and faith that I have, I find that whilst at times over wrought with tears and sadness, I am able to see light going forward.
Being a medium does not help with the passing of a loved one whom is close to us, as we still mourn and miss their physical presence.
With regards to my “relationship”, my Guide was quite forthright and explained that as this was needed for my pathway going forward and I was too scared to change it, that the Divine Spirit or Universe, stepped in and made the change for me, otherwise I would have remained stuck, more of my life would have been wasted and my children would continue to see a damaged relationship and their Mum sad and abused.
Indeed my eldest asked me how I would cope when they left home, and this to me was a strong catalyst as to protecting them, showing them you don’t diminish yourself for others, and more importantly that love shouldn’t hurt you and you don’t have to stay in a relationship that is harmful.
My spiritual pathway has sustained me over many years, I have felt as though I am on my knees at times, praying for help and guidance for a way forward, questioned as to why I can’t have my happily ever after, and why time is so brief with those we love and whom love us.
I have raged at the Divine Spirit, or God as some call it, I have at times also asked as to why when I try so hard nothing seems to work and life becomes harder rather than easier.
My reply is always “this is for now, not forever.” this has infuriated me at times, but also offered me peace, as deep down I know that this too shall pass, and the light will return once more, the lessons of the experience and the blessings will become apparent, and I will be able to share what I have learned with others, and in some cases that may mean that they do not have to undergo the same as myself.
I do not mean as some sort of saviour or martyr for others, my ego truly isn’t that big, more that my depths of understanding will grow and I can maybe help others to navigate their way through the storms of their life. A problem shared is a problem halved as the saying goes.
And whilst there are moments of grief and despair for how life has changed this year, there is also hope. I hope that all I have held dear and believed to be true will be true.
The timing will be divine. The change needed to happen when it did. It was her time to pass and so forth, there is now space for more joy and love to enter my life, and my children will see a mum who is happy and maybe even loved.
Our lives are so brief but in each moment there is an opportunity for love, happiness and hope to manifest in some way, whether great or small.
In times of tribulations, all we can do is trust ourselves and act in accordance with our ethics, values, and love, and if we do so, we cannot be wrong despite what others need to believe to reassure themselves and validate their choices and actions.
My relationship has ended, my Mum has passed, but yet the world has not lost its wonder and beauty, it is simply different in terms of whom I am with.
My Mum will not and has not left me. She is always with me and always will be. Before she passed, she was awake enough to say “I can be whatever I want to be now.” and I said “ what will you be mum?”, she thought and then said “a bee”, I asked, “bumble or honey” and she replied “honey bee”, my Mum has always loved honey, I thought to myself “ but how we will know it is you?”, and I heard the reply in my mind “I will not sting you.”
To me, this is guidance from her on a deeper level, love should not sting, it should empower and lead us to discover things about ourselves that we never knew but always had some intuition about.
Going forward, I mourn her, I mourn the simple things that were expressions of her love, the lemon drizzle cakes and the flapjacks she baked and then sent my Dad to deliver to me. The way she smiled and the way she would roll her eyes at the actions of others.
Life changes when we least expect it to. It is to be cherished and it is to be celebrated, but whatever you’re going through at the moment, it will pass,
This is just for now, not forever.
Stay Strong.
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